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It’s been one year since I’ve been blogging so I thought I’d grade myself on my blogging report card. I started to blog March 2009, and though it’s been a year, I didn’t let anyone know that I was blogging for about eight months because I wanted to build up content for the website as well as develop discipline and a comfort level around blogging. Like anything in life, the more I blogged, the better I became at it. I still have a long way to go, and there are a lot of things that I still need to learn. How do you prepare for your biggest projects?

I have honored the commitment that I made in terms of the frequency of the blog, but I am not doing as many book reviews as I committed to do. I wanted to do one each week. And, I am not reading as many of the older books that I committed to read. This is something that’s important to me and ultimately to you. Wouldn’t it be great if I  reviewed a long lost book that provided information that you could immediately use at work, and even give you that competitive edge? I firmly believe that we can use some of yesterday’s ideas to solve some of today’s problems.

I would like to interview more accomplished people from other countries to have a diversity of perspectives for a richer experience. Are there folks that you can suggest, and be a bridge in the introduction? I would also like to pull out more of the information on mentoring and career.

There is a lot of rich content on The Invisible Mentor, but I have to segment, and analyze the information to enhance the user experience. I learned about a software program Concordance, that may be able to do that for me, and there is a 30-day trial so I can test it. Wouldn’t it be great if there was enough information that we could build the perfect mentor, what would a perfect mentor look like?

How important is it to honor commitments that you make to yourself? Do you take the time to grade yourself?

As I move forward, what are some things that you’d like to see in this space?

A friend suggested that I hold a contest where my readers would choose their invisible mentor, and in this instance, they would have to choose people who are living because the prize would be mentoring sessions with the “invisible mentor” that they chose. I would need your assistance to make something like this work. If for instance someone chose, Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, George Soros, Seth Godin or say a Rupert Murdoch, how would we get access to them? Is this something that you’d be interested in? Because if you were, I’d find a way to make it work.

Looking back at what I have achieved with the invisible mentor, I would grade myself a B+ on my blogging report card. I will work harder at the book reviews and strive to find books that have changed the world, and rare books that will inspire us to take action. For the past year, how would you grade yourself for your most important goals? Why did you give yourself that grade? What can you do better in the upcoming months? A B+ is on my Report Card, what’s on yours?

Let’s continue the conversation, please comment by clicking on the comment link below and let me know if (1) you’d be interested in having your invisible mentor mentor you? and (2) what you’d like to see on this blog? (3) how I can enhance the user experience for you (4) and finally, is a B+ a fair grade, why, why not?

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If you haven’t already, it’s time to take your professional development into your own hands, and invisible mentors will help you to do just that! Invisible mentors are unique leaders that you can learn things from by simply observing them from a distance, or researching them on the Internet. It’s simpler than you might think, here is how:

1. What do you want to learn and why (See Knowledge for a Reason)?
2. Who knows what you want to learn?
3. Make a list of the five top experts in the field.
4. Research them using your favourite search engine.
5. What articles and books have they written? What articles and books have been written about them?
6. Which presentations and speeches have they given?
7. Look for videos about them.
8. Visit their websites and fan pages.
9. Take time to read the information and digest it, then compare it to what you already know.
10. Teach the information to another person to cement it into your memory.

If you’d like me to hold your hand, The Invisible Mentor Toolkit will assist you in choosing your invisible mentors and much more. It’s  acquiring knowledge and wisdom from a distance. Let’s keep the conversation flowing, please let me know what you think about this.  Click on the comment link below. Many readers read this blog from other sites, so why don’t you pop over to The Invisible Mentor and subscribe (top on the left side) by email or RSS Feed. I created a Mini Learning Toolkit and you can grab a copy by clicking here.

For your research and writing needs, consider my firm Ambeck Enterprise for white papers, articles, fact sheets, anniversary booklets, you name it. Since I am the best kept secret you may not know this, but I have over 15 years research and writing experience. I KNOW content. And if you cannot figure out which books to read for professional development, I am your WOMAN. I can assist you with that too. Visit my sales page for resources such as The Invisible Mentor Toolkit to assist you in acquiring wisdom from a distance. For free white papers click here.

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Most people would like to make history and leave a legacy behind. So, how do you go about making history? Recently I interviewed Nathalie Lussier for this blog, and when I asked her what her favourite quote was, she responded, “Well behaved women never make history,” Laurel Thatcher Ulrich. I thought, what a great quote, what are your thoughts about the quote? Would you rather be well-behaved or make history? And what does it mean to be well-behaved?

I decided to research Laurel Thatcher Ulrich to see what I could learn about her. When did she say “Well behaved women never make history,” and in what context did she say it? Born in 1938, Thatcher Ulrich, a Pulitzer Prize winner for “A Midwife’s Tale: The Life of Martha Ballard based on her diary, 1785–1812” is a “historian of early America and the history of women and a university professor at Harvard University,” according to Wikipedia.

Thatcher Ulrich wrote an article and included the phrase “well-behaved women seldom make history,” which resonated with many, and the phrase took off like wild fire. After the popularity of the phrase she wrote the book, Well Behaved Women, which looked at the ways women shaped history. Nowhere in the article is the phrase explained, but in the book, she looked at lives of Rosa Parks who refused to give up her seat to a white passenger, Christine de Pisan who challenged the hatred of women and girls and stereotypes in a male dominated world way back in the late 14th century, Harriet Tubman, Elizabeth Cady Stanton and many other notable women who practiced social activism. These women stood up for what they believed in.

This means to me that we have to take a stand and make a difference. How can you make a difference? What do you believe in? What is your moral compass? Would you stand up for what you believed in if necessary? These are tough questions. To make a difference, and to make history, is to take the path less traveled and be willing to stand up for what you believe in. You have to take a risk.

Keep the conversation flowing, please comment. Many readers read this blog from other sites, so why don’t you pop over to The Invisible Mentor and subscribe (top on the left side) by email or RSS Feed. I created a Mini Learning Toolkit and you can grab a copy by clicking here.

For your research and writing needs, consider my firm Ambeck Enterprise for white papers, articles, fact sheets, anniversary booklets, you name it. Since I am the best kept secret you may not know this, but I have over 15 years research and writing experience. I KNOW content. And if you cannot figure out which books to read for professional development, I am your WOMAN. I can assist you with that too. Visit my sales page for resources such as The Invisible Mentor Toolkit to assist you in acquiring wisdom from a distance.

Homework: Review what the other women mentioned did to be considered not well-behaved.

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I did a guest for Josh Hanagarne at The World’s Strongest Librarian, Heavy Hitting Ideas From Heavy Hitting Books, and one of the commenters, Carlon suggested Enchiridion by Epictetus so I decided to read and review it. You can get a free copy of Enchiridion on the internet and it’s a very short book so it’s easy to read. Enchiridion is simple wisdom about life.

One of the things I wanted to do on this blog is to review books off the beaten path that contains ancient wisdom, books that make you think. But, I have been reading a lot of more contemporary works. It struck me to do both so that I could compare and contrast the contents of books from yesterday with those of today to enhance the learning and user experience.

Epictetus, a Greek Philosopher was born AD 55. In Enchiridion, there are 52 ideas that we can apply to life. Epictetus advocates self-responsibility and self-discipline and he explains the difference between the things that are within our control, and those outside our control, the uncontrollable.  “The things in our control are by nature free, unrestrained, unhindered; but those not in our control are weak, slavish, restrained, belonging to others. Remember, then, that if you suppose that things which are slavish by nature are also free, and that what belongs to others is your own, then you will be hindered.” Knowing that distinction, allows us to stop trying to control the uncontrollable. I liked the idea of “Don’t be prideful with any excellence that is not your own” because so many people brag about the accomplishments of others, as if they had a hand in it.

As I am reading Epictetus, I am being reminded of books such as the Analects of Confucius and The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin, which are filled with laws and ideas to live by. Please read the posts A Review of The Analects of Confucius and Review of The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin. Here are 10 ideas that I extracted from the book.

10 Great Ideas

1. Do not be averse to things not in your control because you will surely be disappointed
2. If you are going to perform a task, first think about the nature of the task and how you are going to perform it
3. People are disturbed by things because of the principle and ideas they have about those things. For example, some people are disturbed by death because of their ideas and beliefs about death.
4. “Sickness is a hindrance to the body, but not to your ability to choose, unless that is your choice. Lameness is a hindrance to the leg, but not to your ability to choose. Say this to yourself with regard to everything that happens, then you will see such obstacles.” This is important today in the way we often view people with disabilities, they have a disability, they are not a disability
5. “Don’t demand that things happen as you wish, but wish that they happen as they do happen, and you will go on well” is a good one for me because I have a tendency to want to control things.
6. View your possessions as things you have been given to take care of for a time. Never say of anything, “I have lost it”; but, “I have returned it.”
7. “For another will not hurt you unless you please. You will then be hurt when you think you are hurt.”
8. Don’t tell, demonstrate
9. It’s none of your business what others say or think about you.
10. “Don’t wish to be thought to know anything; and even if you appear to be somebody important to others, distrust yourself”

I would like to further explore the idea of viewing your possessions as if they were on loan to you. One example he gives is people losing their estates should view the situation as “I have returned my estate.” This is a tough one, but would viewing the loss of of a home, your shelter, be easier if you decided that it was time to return it? Would it hurt less? What are your thoughts? There is much wisdom within the pages of Enchiridion, and though I understand many of his ideas, some of them are difficult to take even though it would make life easier. Many of the ideas go against the grain, including viewing the loss of a house as it being returned.

I recommend Enchiridion because it is not only filled with wisdom, but it goes against the grain so it takes us out of our comfort zone which can lead to innovative thinking. What ideas can you use from Enchiridion?

Keep the conversation flowing please comment. Many readers read this blog from other sites, so why don’t you pop over to The Invisible Mentor and subscribe (top on the left side) by email or RSS Feed. I created a Mini Learning Toolkit and you can grab a copy by clicking here.

For your research and writing needs, consider my firm Ambeck Enterprise for white papers, articles, fact sheets, anniversary booklets, you name it. Since I am the best kept secret you may not know this, but I have over 15 years research and writing experience. I KNOW content. And if you cannot figure out which books to read for professional development, I am your WOMAN. I can assist you with that too. Visit my sales page for resources such as The Invisible Mentor Toolkit to assist you in acquiring wisdom from a distance.

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Is good enough sometimes good enough?

Let me explain. Have  you ever revisited  work you did in the past to see how you have grown? What did you think about what you saw? Was it good enough or did you feel as if you could have done a lot better? Next month will be one year since I have been blogging, so I decided to see how much I have grown as a blogger. I decided to revisit Fairy Tales, What You Can Learn From Them, one of the first blog post I did, but also a review that I had some previously. What I discovered was that I still liked what I did back then. Good enough is good enough. Yes, I have made some changes to enhance the reader experience by using some of the tools that I am now familiar with.

Compare the old blog post with this one and let me know which version you prefer. In what ways can you make your work appear new? What new tools do you have to make the old new again?

Book Review: Best-Loved Folktales of the World by Joanna Cole

Reviewed by Avil M. Beckford

When was the last time you ventured into the land of make believe? Best-Loved Folktales of the World by Joanna Cole allowed me to do just that. As an active reader, I was really engaged and found myself getting really annoyed at some of the characters. For example, I became so frustrated with Snow White because she kept on making the same mistakes over and over again, because she thought it would be different, she kept on getting fooled by the disguises of the evil step-mother. Why was I frustrated? Is it because her actions are a metaphor for life, my life, your life, where we seem to find ourselves in the same undesirable situations over and over again until we finally get it.

Some people may think it is a waste of time to read folktales, but for me, I thought it was very worthwhile because it reminded me of simple life lessons such as persistence pays, there is no need to be greedy because there is enough for all of us and instead of competing, why aren’t we creating?

Though Best-Loved Folktales of the World by Joanna Cole is nearly 800 pages in length, it is still appropriate for people with short attention spans because 200 folk tales are included. Because the stories are so short, and there are so many of them, the reader can start reading at any point in the book. You’ll find familiar tales you read as a child such as Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast, Sleeping Beauty, Rumpelstiltskin, Ali Baba and the Forty Thieves or unfamiliar ones such as East of the Sun and West of the Moon, Crab, Chelm Justice, Baby in the Crib, Salt, The Bunyip, and Faithful Even in Death. As an adult, you’ll approach these stories much different from the way you approached them as a child. You’ll view them with a different set of lens all based on your life experiences. You may find yourself sympathetic toward a character in a tale while you could be frustrated with characters in other tales because they keep on making the same mistake over and over again.

I enjoyed reading this book because I was introduced to stories from all over the world, the majority of which I had never heard about. And, it was amazing to find the same story with a different spin because of cultural differences, such as Rumpelstiltskin and Tom Tit Tot. The folk tales reinforce that we are not as different as we think. The author organizes Best-Loved Folktales of the World by regions and if you are like me, the first section in the table of contents that I rushed to was the Caribbean and was delighted to see an Anansi story from Jamaica among the 200 stories. There were other Anansi stories that originated from the Ashanti Tribe in Africa. For those of you who may not be familiar with the Anansi stories, Brother Anansi is a trickster.

Another good thing about the way the book is organized is the Index of Categories of Tales, which allows the readers to quickly see which tales are appropriate for children, wonderful to read aloud, have a moral, are for women and girls and so on. If you like drama, adventure, romance, mystery, horror or fantasy, there is a tale for you. After reading Best-Loved Folktales of the World, you’ll be reminded of the following:

• Share what you have with others because there is enough for everyone
• Persistence pays
• Operate with honesty and integrity: do not claim the work of others because the truth has a way of coming out and the consequences can be dire
• Asking for help shows strength
• Dream big
• Appreciate what you have instead of pining over what you don’t have

I recommend Best-Loved Folktales of the World by Joanna Cole because it’s not only a page-turner, but it allows you to tap into your inner child and have some fun. When reading Best-Loved Folktales of the World , read it not only in the context of providing entertainment, but also in the context of what lessons you can learn to apply to your life. So, take a step back in time and remember when….

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For your research and writing needs, consider my firm Ambeck Enterprise for white papers, articles, fact sheets, anniversary booklets, you name it. Since I am the best kept secret you may not know this, but I have over 15 years research and writing experience. I KNOW content. And if you cannot figure out which books to read for professional development, I am your WOMAN, I can assist you with that too.

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When it comes to taking control of your professional development,  how do you rate yourself?

I spent this weekend at Podcamp Toronto, the first time I have ever attended. I am not going to focus on the the sessions I attended, but on what the organizers said during orientation, which resonated with what I have  consistently said on this blog.

Podcamp, the unconference, is different from other conferences because it’s organized by participants for participants. Connie Crosby, one of the key organizers emphasized that participants are responsible for their own learning, that is, take control of their own professional development. With that in mind, participants were encouraged to leave sessions if they felt that they weren’t getting what they needed (A concept called The Rule of Two Feet), and attend others to see if there was a better fit for them.

Other key aspects of Podcamp unconferences are the sharing, paying it forward and flexibility. Presenters who are also participants share their knowledge, wisdom and experiences so that others may learn from them. Many who have attended previous unconferences subsequently present at later unconferences, honoring the idea of paying it forward. And when you attend these unconferences, there are slots left free for sessions that participants can fill if they want to expand and continue a conversation, or start a conversation they see missing. Traditional conferences can learn from the flexibility of unconferences, as well as practice the Rule of Two Feet to increase attendee satisfaction.

A model such as this, fills some very basic needs, and people learn from their peers or those who have traveled further down the path they are on. When the economy slows down, training budgets are the first ones that are  slashed. How do you respond when this occurs? Do you place your professional development on hold, waiting for the economy to pick up? Or are you proactive  and take your professional development into your own hands? I hope it’s the latter and that you are taking care of your continuous learning.

How might you apply the idea of the unconference to your life? What are ways in which you can take care of your professional development? One way is to get a group of friends together, where each friend would present to the others on a topic that they are very knowledgeable and/or passionate about. This could be organized as a potluck dinner because food makes everything better. Each person in the group would benefit, and may even learn about a model or concept that could be applied in their field or industry.

Another way to apply the concept is to teach others what you know, so that they may learn, and in the process you will deepen your knowledge in the subject.

Let’s keep the conversation going, please comment.

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For your research and writing needs, consider my firm Ambeck Enterprise for white papers, articles, fact sheets, anniversary booklets, you name it. Since I am the best kept secret you may not know this, but I have over 15 years research and writing experience. I KNOW content. And if you cannot figure out which books to read for professional development, I am your WOMAN, I can assist you with that too.

On February 22, 2010, from noon to 1 pm EST, I will be the guest speaker on a teleseminar on women re-inventing themselves. If you can attend, the call in details are Conference Dial-In:  1-712-432-3100, Conference Code:  932589.

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Instead of an interview, I have decided to line up responses to the same career-related questions so that you can compare and contrast them. The interviews are content rich and some may find it daunting, others may find it difficult to remember all the wonderful information. This is a way for me to enhance the user experience and make it easier for you to use the information. Please let me know what you think.

How did mentors influence your life?

Gina McAdam

Their kindness and generosity, sharing their time, ideas, experiences and contacts, impressed me deeply. This gave strength when one needed it, and also a key through many doors that may have otherwise remained locked or unnoticed. Their bright example is what made me want to be a mentor as well. In 2008, I was thrilled to be named Shine Outstanding Mentor of the Year. Shine is a national industry award for female talent management in the UK hospitality and tourism industry. It was started in London by two ladies of Italian origin who wanted to make a difference to how women were seen and wanted to see themselves in the industry.

Ron LeBlanc

I have always surrounded myself with very bright people, and my mentors have always been good to me. I am always striving to improve myself.

Lynn Kahle

I can’t think of any mentors and that makes me sad…

Duke Redbird

They influenced me in terms of encouraging me to understand that the pursuit of money and power as an end was unwise and that the best advice I got, often was follow your bliss. Use the talents that you were gifted with and the money will come.

What’s one core message you received from your mentors?

Gina McAdam

Don’t hide your light under a bushel.

Ron LeBlanc

Always deal with professionals and always get the very best people. If you do not have the best people you are not going to succeed in a difficult industry.

Lynn Kahle

I can’t think of any mentors and that makes me sad…

Duke Redbird

Be wise. I remember I was on a reserve in Morley, Alberta and there was this man in his late seventies or early eighties sitting under a tree. I sat beside him and he said to me, “What do you think about white man’s insurance?” and I said that I had never thought about it because I have never had it. He said, “I have thought about it a lot because they came around to my house to sell me insurance and I didn’t buy it,” and I said, “why?” he said, “When I was a young  man, about your age, I would chop wood for the older folks. I am an old man now, when I need a pillow someone gives it to me, and if I tell them to chop wood, they chop wood for me. That’s Native insurance. White man’s insurance won’t do that for you.” And that was the conversation and it has lived with me ever since.

Which resources (books, movies, training etc.) did your mentors recommend to you?

Gina McAdam

One fabulous mentor, Diane Morris who runs TIAW, recommended that I join and get involved in good networks. I have never looked back since. Someone who is less a mentor than a caring colleague has always signposted me to great articles, events, people and organisations.  Through him I’ve got involved in the Oxford Brookes University Bacchus Mentoring programme for final year hospitality management students. I now mentor a very motivated girl from Sweden and a very bright young man from Hong Kong.

Ron LeBlanc

I was told to keep current on the front side of things because of the constant oscillations of the market and everything else. Everything that affects your business is always shifting so stay on the front side.  Get the best data and voices. I used to read Harvard Business Review, and marketing magazines.

Duke Redbird

They encouraged me to read non-fiction books.

As an Invisible Mentor, what is one piece of advice that you would give to readers?

Gina McAdam

Nurture the people who give to you, always give back. Also, someone I spoke to recently said that one of his mottos was ‘you can’t have two faces’. Treat everyone with equal respect. That is so true.

Ron LeBlanc

Follow your bliss, follow your passion and stay current at all times. You are always unfinished, you are always working on something you want to be and will be. Have a leading kind of curiosity that gets you access to all the information in your particular sector. You have to be passionate, and if you are not, the universe will conspire against you. You want the universe to support you. The intelligent universe will support someone who is operating within their passion and following it.

Lynn Kahle

READ.

Duke Redbird

Realize that what gets everyone up in the mornings is one of four motivations or a combination of them: money, power, self preservation and romance, which includes all the arts, and everything associated with the arts. These are the motivators, and put more emphasis on the self preservation and romance side, and less on the money and power side. You’ll be a happier person.

What are five life lessons that you have learned so far?

Gina McAdam

Respect yourself and all people; b) never give up and that’s different from cutting your losses c) know that you can’t know everything, d) trust in Someone or something higher; e) never forget to say thank you.

Ron LeBlanc

1. Follow your bliss, follow your passion: when you follow your passion you find that the universe conspires to help you along the way
2. Notwithstanding that passion, you need an honest assessment of the possibilities within the choice which you have taken. If your passion is to move piano you know there is a limitation there. If your passion is to be a head of a company you know that’s a different thing completely so you have to have a realistic view on your ambitions
3. Once your way has been chosen, the lesson in life is that you have to be the best. Every individual is unique in some way and has unique sets of talents of experiences and that uniqueness has to be shored up by all the information possible. You have to know what you are doing and be efficient in the career that you’ve chosen.
4. You cannot expand your business without co-operating. One of the imperatives is survival of the co-operatives. Every expanding business needs a level of faith and you need trusting people around you. You need to be able to give up some of the power and co-operate.
5. You can be wrong, and you have to be able to take a bullet, be candid about it and say that you are wrong. You have to be quick about it. That’s the best way forward. Meet those challenges, meet those failures with candor.

Lynn Kahle

1. Learn to listen.
2. It is better to give than receive, especially when it’s unexpected.
3. The golden rule still applies.
4. Love is infinite—your children teach you this.
5. Good health, physical and mental, really is priceless.

Duke Redbird

This is a tough question and I could write a book just to give it justice. But I would say don’t sweat the small stuff, the only thing we have is now, this moment, there is truth and relative truth, most people function on relative truth and few people have an idea about what is really truth. Another life lesson is that the opposite of birth is death and the opposite of life is eternity.

What are the steps you took to succeed in your field?

Gina McAdam

Generally, I was never afraid to try something new and see where it would lead.  I didn’t have fixed ideas and notions about myself. When I did, I knocked on the right doors. But I was lucky always to have an orbit of good and wise people around me for support.

Ron LeBlanc

Straight and unmitigated courage and confidence in my own talent and intelligence but also I have learned more and more that I need a supporting group of professionals as I move forward, education and professional support and a great deal of courage. Go for it!

Lynn Kahle

Not so sure that I have but I do keep up and change the content of a course to be as relevant as possible.

Duke Redbird

Never burn bridges, treat everyone with respect, and follow the golden rule.

What advice do you have for someone just starting out in your field?

Ron LeBlanc

Collect all the information possible about the field, look at it and really be mindful of how the field moves you, and make sure that it is field that you want to be in. Look at yourself and make sure that it is the place for you. You only have one life so you want to be sure.

Lynn Kahle

If you don’t love it, leave it. Do something else. There are a lot of options.

Duke Redbird

Be compassionate and have charity in your heart.

if you combined the responses what might you create? If you compared and contrasted the responses, what might you glean? Keep the conversation flowing, please comment. Many readers read this blog from other sites, so why don’t you pop over to The Invisible Mentor and subscribe (top on the left side) by email or RSS Feed. I created a Mini Learning Toolkit and you can grab a copy by clicking here.

For your research and writing needs, consider my firm Ambeck Enterprise for white papers, articles, fact sheets, anniversary booklets, you name it. Since I am the best kept secret you may not know this, but I have over 15 years research and writing experience. I KNOW content. And if you cannot figure out which books to read for professional development, I am your WOMAN, I can assist you with that too.

This post was inspired by the 2010 Winter Olympics in Vancouver, Canada. On Monday, a friend invited me over for dinner, Family Day, a holiday in a few Canadian provinces including Ontario where I reside. She has been glued to her television watching the competitions. I hadn’t watched any of the competitions so far and took the opportunity to do so.

We watched snowboarding and what an adrenaline rush, and I wasn’t even competing. Of course as a Jamaican-Canadian I was rooting for Mike Robertson, the Canadian who was a very close second behind the American competitor, Seth Wescott. For a while Robertson was leading, but Wescott took the lead at the last minute to win the gold medal. Both Mike Robertson and Seth Wescott are winners in my book.

There are times in life when we give it all we have and yet we do not win. There is no reason to feel badly because we did the best we could with what we had. Unlike the Olympics, in the absence of competition, how do you test yourself to ensure that you show up as your best self most of the time? What activities do you perform daily to ensure that you become better and do not stagnate in your field? How often do you Go for the Gold in life?

Who do you have in your support network to coach, mentor, motivate, inspire, challenge and question you, so that you reach deep within to draw on your reserves to eke out a little bit more even when you think you have nothing more to give?

WE all need a support network of people to help up show up as our best selves most of the time. In what ways are you similar to athletes? What leadership lessons can you learn from athletes?

P.S. I will be rooting for Errol Kerr who makes up the Jamaica Ski Team. Kerr a freestyle skier, is doing the unexpected. It doesn’t matter whether he wins or lose, the point is that he tried and the point is that he showed up, and the point is he went against the grain.

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Recently there has been coverage in the media on Minute Mentoring, or speed mentoring, which is the brainchild of Dana Perino, ex-White House Press Secretary. Minute Mentoring is based on the concept of speed dating, and for those who may not know, according to Wikipedia, “Speed dating is a formalized matchmaking process or dating system whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people. Its origins are credited to Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish HaTorah, originally as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry. Supporters argue that speed dating saves time.”

Minute Mentoring

The aim of minute mentoring is to save time. Many of these female power brokers who participated in the minute mentoring event, do not have the time to participate in traditional mentoring relationships, but are able to carve out pockets of time to share their knowledge and wisdom. If you have never had the privilege of participating in traditional mentoring relationships, instead of feeling disheartened and sorry for yourself, be proactive and take your professional development into your own hands.

Mentoring Circle

Since the face of mentoring is changing, gather together a group of your friends and colleagues and form a mentoring circle, a peer mentoring support network. The relationship is reciprocal in nature where members of the Circle work as a unit to support each other in achieving personal and professional success. As a group, identify accomplished individuals who have successfully done what you are trying to do in your careers. Think about what you would like to learn from them. Organize a minute mentoring event, and invite these mentors who you have chosen to attend.

Invisible Mentors

In addition, you can incorporate the invisible mentor concept, coined by Karen L. Peterson, a Washington State University Professor in her 2000 paper, “Invisible Mentor: Communication Theory and Lilian Katz.” As defined by Peterson, “invisible mentors” are unique leaders you can learn from by observing them from a distance. Since 2000, we have progressed a long way, with advances in Internet and other online technologies. As a group, members of the mentoring circle can identify 10 people who they have always wanted to meet, and conduct extensive research on them. What books have been written by and about them? Which speeches and presentations have they given? What concepts and models did they develop? Who mentored and influenced them? Which books influenced them and why?

Each member should present to the group what they learned so that all may benefit from the newly acquired information.

The Merging of Mentoring Circles, Minute Mentoring and Invisible Mentoring

The mentoring circle combined with minute mentoring and invisible mentoring can form a dynamite hybrid mentoring program that can benefit mentees, especially those who have not had access to traditional mentors. With careful planning, mentees can reap the benefits that other mentees who are participating in traditional mentoring programs are accustomed to reaping.

What other concept can you adapt to your mentoring program? Everything old is new again, and you have to change with the times or you will be left behind to become obsolete.

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This is the second segment of the interview with Duke Redbird. I learn so much from these interviews, and I hope you do too, and I never know what I will take away. When Duke was asked about his one wish, he responded that he’d like to see what the world looks like in 100 years. And he would take the 25-volume set of Encyclopedia Britannica on a deserted island because that’s all he would need. Duke told a story about a core message from his mentors and I was touched by it, we are our brother’s keeper. We live in a me-me-me world, but that’s no excuse. What are your thoughts?

Tell me a little bit about yourself.

I am a First Nations Ojibwe Elder from Saugeen, a small reserve located in Ontario. I was born in 1939 so I’m 70 years old and will be 71 in March. I lived my entire life between the sacred and the profane, and I see the sacred as anything that has been created by the creator and nature, and the profane as anything that has been created by human beings. So when I am in the sacred I try not to profane it, and when I am in the profane, like I am today, I try to bring something sacred to it, so that’s my rule and prime directive.

What’s an accomplishment that you are proudest of?

I am very proud of my three wonderful children: a boy and two girls and grandchildren. They haven’t given me any trouble or worry. It’s a proud accomplishment to see how well they turned out.

How did mentors influence your life?

They influenced me in terms of encouraging me to understand that the pursuit of money and power as an end was unwise and that the best advice I got, often was follow your bliss. Use the talents that you were gifted with and the money will come.

What’s one core message you received from your mentors?

Be wise. I remember I was on a reserve in Morley, Alberta and there was this man in his late seventies or early eighties sitting under a tree. I sat beside him and he said to me, “What do you think about white man’s insurance?” and I said that I had never thought about it because I have never had it. He said, “I have thought about it a lot because they came around to my house to sell me insurance and I didn’t buy it,” and I said, “why?” he said, “When I was a young  man, about your age, I would chop wood for the older folks. I am an old man now, when I need a pillow someone gives it to me, and if I tell them to chop wood, they chop wood for me. That’s Native insurance. White man’s insurance won’t do that for you.” And that was the conversation and it has lived with me ever since.

Which resources (books, movies, training etc.) did your mentors recommend to you?

They encouraged me to read non-fiction books.

As an Invisible Mentor, what is one piece of advice that you would give to readers?

Realize that what gets everyone up in the mornings is one of four motivations or a combination of them: money, power, self preservation and romance, which includes all the arts, and everything associated with the arts. These are the motivators, and put more emphasis on the self preservation and romance side, and less on the money and power side. You’ll be a happier person.

How do you integrate your personal and professional life?

I mentor and advise in my career, and I am also a broadcaster. I work in film and television. I write poetry, essays and give speeches. My personal and professional lives are one and the same.

What’s a major regret that you’ve had in life?

The biggest was that I spent more time on activities that were not enhancing and rewarding than I should. This is especially important when you are young.

What are five life lessons that you have learned so far?

This is a tough question and I could write a book just to give it justice. But I would say don’t sweat the small stuff, the only thing we have is now, this moment, there is truth and relative truth, most people function on relative truth and few people have an idea about what is really truth. Another life lesson is that the opposite of birth is death and the opposite of life is eternity.

When you have some down time, how do you spend it?

I watch television, read, go to clubs, engage people, take walks, and sit in cafes. I also like discovering the city and the environment, wherever it happens to be.

What process do you use to generate great ideas?

I guess the fact that there are no great ideas inspires me.

What’s your favourite quotation and why?

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It’s the golden rule and if everyone followed that we would have a better world to live in.

How do you define success?

Success is getting what you want, but happiness is wanting what you get.

In your opinion what’s the formula for success?

Success is when you get what you want.

What are the steps you took to succeed in your field?

Never burn bridges, treat everyone with respect, and follow the golden rule.

What advice do you have for someone just starting out in your field?

Be compassionate and have charity in your heart.

If trusted friends could introduce you to five people that you’ve always wanted to meet, who would you choose?

Dalai Lama, President Barack Obama, Nelson Mandela, and Eckhart Tolle

Which one book had a profound impact on your life?

The Bible

If you were stranded on a deserted island, what are five books that you would like to have with you and why?

Encyclopedia Brittanica, that’s all you need.

What one music CD and movie would you like to have with you (on the deserted island) and why?

The one CD is anything by Jesse Winchester and the movie is The Godfather.

What excites you about life?

The fact that it exists at all.

How do you nurture your soul?

I write poetry.

If you had a personal genie and she gave you one wish, what would you wish for? Or, if I gave you a magic wand, what would you use it for?

I would like to see what the world will look like in 100 years.

Complete the following, I am happy when…..

I get what I want and I want what I get.

What nuggets of wisdom have you gleaned from Duke’s interview? How might you apply his responses to your situation.

Keep the conversation flowing. Many readers read this blog from other sites, so why don’t you pop over to The Invisible Mentor and subscribe (top on the left side) by email or RSS Feed. I created a Mini Learning Toolkit and you can grab a copy by clicking here.

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